“I highly recommend working with Tom from Numbers Game Lifestyle (NGL). Tom was able to get my dating life from a few dates every few months, to nearly one date every day during peak time, the summer months. Even during cuffing season, I have been successful in finding dates. Prior to Tom, I decided to dabble in online dating and in day game, and I have seen some success. While I wasn’t getting laid, primarily because my dating system wasn’t efficient, and not optimized for attraction, working with Tom turned that around within a few weeks. Initially, I went to Tom to fix the holes in my dating system. It started with just a zoom call, and we found out we were a good fit for each other, client and coach.

Tom is an excellent coach and his program is straight to the point, and gets you the results you are looking for, no settling required! I went to Tom because I was looking for a long term relationship, but the way I was approaching the dating field just wasn’t working. I was having problems getting dates, and when I do get dates, I usually wouldn’t get to the third date, let alone get a girlfriend. Before joining Tom’s coaching program, I first inquired about his escalation guide, and it was quite a shock to see his guide because it was unorthodox. It was well written, and I didn’t believe it at first. However, after watching more of his videos, I decided that he gives legit advice, and not the typical “pick up” grift most guys sell. I decided to book a call with Tom to see if we were a good fit, and he is a very authentic individual. The way he conducts himself in his videos is the exact same way he conducts himself in coaching sessions, so without a doubt just a chill guy who knows his stuff.

I genuinely learned a lot from Tom. It was an entire process working with him, first I had to unlearn some of the bad habits I picked up or developed, second I had to learn new habits to make my dating life more efficient, and third I had to learn how to become a rock, emotionally. First, my initial dating strategy was grabbing a coffee first, meeting them half way, then getting dinner if I get a second date, again where the woman wants to go. While it is a very safe dating strategy, it usually doesn’t lead to anything more than a woman getting a free drink or meal. Likewise I had to unlearn asking a list of questions to ask women, instead learn to let the conversation flow naturally by digging deeper into what they are asking. Before fixing my dates, he fixed my dating profiles so that my pictures are the best I can do, which resulted in more matches compared to my old photos. Dateside, working with Tom has helped me plan dates that are cheap and close to me so I do not waste my time if the date decides to flake last minute.

After unlearning bad habits, I had to learn new habits to significantly improve my dating life. To put the habits into a category, it’s basically habits to make me move faster in the date. While it is socially acceptable to make a move on the first date, Tom said it best when he told me “If a girl slept with you on the third date, she would have slept with you on the third date” and that was a light bulb moment for me. Because the few women I did have intimate relationships with prior to joining Tom’s program, they did say they were open on the first date, but didn’t want to make it too obvious because they didn’t want me to think they were sluts. I didn’t connect the dots until Tom told me that line, and it couldn’t be further from the truth. Once I was getting an abundance of dates, I was able to move fast with women, screening out women who only wanted to go on a date because they are bored, and keeping women who genuinely wanted to go on a date with me. The “move fast” principle, doesn’t just apply to intimacy, but also to setting up dates. Which is why, working with Tom, has taught me to cut the lengthy conversations, and just go straight to calling and setting up a date ASAP.

After learning this, moving fast (be it in setting up dates or making a move), I learned how to be a rock emotionally. Because of the abundance of dates I was able to have from unlearning bad habits and replacing them with newer habits that produces results, it accelerates the amount of emotional testing you get. Moving fast and setting up dates gives you little room for error and sulking when a date flakes, when you get a break up text, or when a girl ghosts you. You become stronger and you learn not to take a lot of things personally, especially if you “lose” girls before the fifth date threshold. Learning to not sweat the small stuff, or not making a mountain of mole hills, is a result from attaining abundance in dating, and as Tom says means you are ready for a long term relationship. The emotional maturity you gain from having abundance is translatable to long term relationships, but still needs to be trained. While I initially signed up for just a quick fix the holes in dating program, Tom still maintained support when I started getting into my real goal, a long term relationship. He taught me how to handle new situations I have not encountered as a result of short term dating vs long term dating. After having most of the struggles figured out, I was fully ready for both long term and short term relationships, keeping women interested in both long term and short term relationships. I am currently in a long term relationship with a great girl, and this would not have happened without Tom’s excellent guidance and mentorship.”
– John T.